Narcissists Always Say These 5 Things

Narcissists Always Say These 5 Things

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When it comes to saying things, narcissists are very strategic in their approach; they know exactly what to say and how to say it in every situation. They will say things that trigger your emotions in different ways, and almost everything they say follows a similar pattern and that is to deflect and project everything back onto you, even if you have nothing to do with what happened at the time.

So here’s a list of five things narcissists always say.

 Number 1: “You never let me finish a sentence.”

When you hear them say this, they actually mean that they don’t want you to speak because what you have to say is the truth. They will manipulate the conversation to prevent you from expressing your thoughts. They want to hide the real truth because it would threaten their control over you.

Narcissists have a skill for influencing your thoughts and making you believe what they say. This causes you to become increasingly silent in the relationship.

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 Number 2: “What more do you want from me?”

This is a phrase that covert narcissists often use, and when you hear it, think about what it means for them. In their mind, they believe they’re already doing everything for you and that you’re ungrateful. That’s what they want you to think. But the truth is, narcissists don’t even provide the basic things you should expect in a healthy relationship, like honesty, respect, and showing affection. They know exactly what they’re doing, and this is another way for them to make you doubt yourself and prevent you from questioning their actions.

So what they’re really saying is, “I know I haven’t done anything for you, but I need to make it seem like you’re ungrateful towards me, so you’ll focus on yourself.” And what happens next is, you start questioning yourself. You start believing that maybe you’re not doing enough, so you try even harder to please them. Can you see how this one phrase they use has the power to completely change the direction of a relationship?

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 Number 3: “I don’t know what you’re talking about.”

This phrase is interesting because when a narcissist says it, they actually know exactly what you’re talking about. They pretend not to know so they can avoid taking responsibility for anything. It’s just another way for them to make you feel like you’re going crazy. You might start doubting yourself and thinking that maybe you’re the problem, that you’re making things up.

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Have you ever left a narcissist and wondered if you were the one causing all the problems in the relationship? Did you question if you could be the narcissist? Are you the reason they acted the way they did? Well, let me answer that for you, and the answer is a resounding No! It was not you who caused any of the issues. It was the narcissist manipulating you, and that’s the honest truth.

 Number 4: “Nobody likes you… or believes you.”

Narcissists are skilled at lying, and one of their tactics is making you believe that other people support their stories about you. They claim that others are turning against you, and if you don’t shape up, you’ll be left with no one to turn to. But in reality, they might be the only ones saying these things. There may not actually be anyone else who knows anything, but they want you to believe otherwise so that you feel trapped and have no one else to rely on except them. This is one of the most cruel tricks they play on you. Just think about it, what kind of person would go to such lengths to make you feel isolated and miserable?

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When they succeed in making you believe that you’re the problem by projecting all the negativity onto you, you’ll stop questioning your own reality. You’ll start accepting the continuous abuse because you’ll think you deserve it. It’s incredibly evil, but that’s what narcissists do. Their goal is to remove all logic and reason from your thinking and have complete control over you. It’s truly disgusting.

 Number 5: “Why won’t you just forget about this and move on?”

This is another phrase that narcissists love to use, and I can personally attest that it works more often than it should. In my case, it was phrased a bit differently. They would say, “I’m sorry, let’s forget about what happened and start fresh.” I’m ashamed to admit how many times I fell for that fake apology. It took me years to realize that the apology was always fake. It was just a way to make me overlook their bad behavior and give them another chance to continue the abuse. They would quickly return to their old patterns of bad behavior, but I kept allowing it. I had become a slave to their abuse.

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Narcissists see this phrase and think, “I want you to accept my bad behavior as a mistake, but I also want you to believe that you played a role in causing it. So, you should actually be apologizing to me.” And I’m not joking, this is genuinely how these people think. They don’t see a problem with themselves abusing you; they believe the problem lies with you for not accepting their abuse.

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Now that I’ve explained how narcissists use these phrases, I want you to understand something: These phrases can also be used in a non-abusive context. For instance, when you make a mistake and genuinely want to move on, apologizing sincerely and promising not to repeat the same mistake is an acceptable use of this phrase because you genuinely mean it. It all depends on the context of these phrases and how they are used in each situation. So, if you occasionally use some of these phrases in your relationship, it doesn’t mean you’re a narcissist.

I hope this article helps you understand what narcissists truly mean when they say these things. If you found this helpful, please feel free to share it with others who may be going through a difficult relationship. Let’s spread the word and help the healing process. Thank you so much for reading.

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